It’s the New Year and everyone is excited to plan the change they anticipate will transform their lives. The key difference about the start of the year verses any other time, is that the drive for change is often motivated to experience a personal re-birth; it’s often very personal and self-directed. That idea is wonderful and it’s truly the starting point of life changing experiences but the problem is that at the start of every year we imagine that in the future we will be better than the past and the future ‘us’ will be thinner, more successful and happier. That somehow, what the future holds is significantly better and that we need to be ready for the amazing future that awaits us. This is the equivalent of dreaming of building an amazing sand castle at the start of every year, imagining it to be spectacular when we finish but not realizing that waves will undoubtedly wash into your castle. Against the magnitude of a large or even small waves, the foundation of your sand castle will be compromised. This isn’t to say that we shouldn’t dream of building castles, it’s realizing that life is fragile, unpredictable and unsustainable without a strong, consistent, resilient and thought-out plan for your castle. So does this mean you put your future plans of amazing transformation on hold in fear of storms and waves?
Instead, we should start every year by looking backward and really assessing, compiling and evaluating our lives in order to build new blocks on the existing information from our own lives. Taking the first step to look back will help you decide when, where and how to build your castle if you decide to build one. And most importantly, who you want around when those inevitable waves will hit your castle.
This takes significantly more energy and time, and it is exceptionally difficult to critique your life with yourself. I was able to do that for the first time in the most unexpected way and in the most unlikely of places; Labrador. Labrador was the best opportunity for me to hit pause on my life for two years. I reflected on what I wanted and reflected on the years that ran past me. Now, at the start of this New Year, I have started a new job, in a new city and a renewed sense of self-worth. I’ve made a deliberate effort to remove all that does not serve me in a positive and healthy way and plan for the future with a keen focus on the lessons I learned from life.
So, as you start planning for the future, look back at how you started the year before and the year before that and determine how you want to start the year based on the people, lessons and experiences that you lived through to make the best of the new ones that are to come! The best indicator of the future, is the past. So plan for your past, because the future will never come and the past is all that will remain!